On Facebook I only look at a few other Facebook pages other than close family and friends Facebook pages. The two I look at are positive affirmation/outlook pages that lift me up and get me to think. This morning I saw this and it got me thinking…
In my walks of life I am in the public eye a lot. I also work with a lot of volunteers, colleagues, staff and business associates. That means I converse with a lot of people. It is bound to happen that I am going to upset someone, even when it is unintentional.
No doubt you too have probably upset someone without meaning to do it. This saying: “I am responsible for what I say and not what you understand” I think is very comforting. So often when I am maybe depleted of energy or not in a great space and someone misunderstands me, it eats me up and I can’t stand that feeling! It sits heavy at the pit of my gut and I feel sick to my stomach.
But as I have grown and worked on positive personal changes I have gained some wisdom (thank goodness). Now instead when something happens where someone is upset with me (and it is bound to happen) I ask myself, “did I come from a place of love and concern? Did I mean to upset them?”
If my answer is that I was in a bad place and probably reacted/acted poorly I apologize right away. I say it sincerely and with no excuses. But if I can truly say that I meant nothing bad by what I said or I had the best intention I either try and explain to the person why I said what I did or I let it go. (Letting it go is huge for my well-being.) It really depends on the situation.
I suppose it boils down to something that is so powerful that I dedicated a whole evening discussion on it for my health and wellness series: Mindfulness. We need to all continue to be mindful, for ourselves and for each other. It is a practice and constantly needs fine tuning but it is one of the best tools that we can all have to achieve a whole, rich and life full of deep understanding and deep connections with others and the universe.
Tonight we are having a guided meditation at ADIO Chiropractic Clinic in Libertyville from 7-8 p.m. It’s just $10.00 to come (if you can’t afford don’t pay and come anyway). It’s a wonderful, bonding, relaxing experience. I think you’ll be glad you came.
Have w wonderful day:)
Sandy Kamen Wisniewski